Which couple on this planet has had no problems of their own? Just because their facebook photos show them smiling in all albums, it doesn’t mean that they don’t have ups and downs to manage. In fact, being in a relationship takes a lot of sacrifices, adjustments and trust on one another. Blame it on the media, we expect whirlwind fairy tale romances, but in real life it doesn’t happen that way. We don’t run around trees everyday, we have jobs rather to take care of so that bills are paid. Health concerns too would be a challenge, especially when one of the partners is way aged and the other is still coping with real facts. If you or someone you know needs answers to such perils in life, know that you aren’t alone. Only if you are willing to talk to one another rather than each other, this relationship can still work and be salvaged.
Don’t Make Assumptions:
Insecurity is what we all have, especially in relationships. This is why it is important to be very transparent with one another. Just in case you would be late arriving home tonight, it wouldn’t take all day long to send your loved one a text and a reason for the same. Never keep someone waiting, which only goes to show that you are taking them for granted. Remember, no matter how busy you are, there is someone solely waiting with all love for you at the end of the day. He or she may have cooked a nice meal to pep your tired soul.
If your partner isn’t answering your calls or texts, don’t assume they are with someone, having a whale of a time or worse still, cheating on you. Maybe there are no signals or there is downtime with the telecom company, and your messages aren’t going through. Don’t create a row, get cross and mad or throw a fit when they finally do answer. This would only scare them away, and of what use is a relationship when one of the partner lives in fear and the other one commands or dominates.
Don’t be impossible to live with. Just because you wake up at five in the morning to work out, don’t expect your partner to forcibly do so. Look at their point of view, honor and respect it. Maybe he or she works late nights, at home or at office. The body needs rest, energy needs to be restored and only then would they be able to function fully well, keeping you happy too.
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Take a vacation and unwind, the two of you need it. Even twenty four hours a day seems to be less, thanks to the rat raced lives we lead, but make time for each other. It doesn’t need to be expensive or lavish; maybe a short trip to the farm house, a spa session together or a simple romantic dinner for two could do the trick.
Check if the two are happy with the sexual energies you offer one another. Many relationships and marriages fail because sex isn’t good or satisfying. Most therapists ask couples to be proactive and with consent, a little adventurous too. It is important to understand your partner, mentally, physically and emotionally.
Once in a while do something child-like for your partner, rekindle the good old romance which started your love story with him or her. While doing that, you would notice how the two of you put away differences and live in the moment of love.
Good luck and keep spreading love