It is a complicated concept, the emotion of love. Although it is an emotion all too common, not everyone knows how to bring love into their lives. The meaning of love needs to be truly expressed in many forms, gentle and natural. It is a feeling that cannot be taught, but an emotion which needs to be felt and understood. However, everyone has the fear of rejection which is why they are scared to fall in love. All hope is not lost, for there are ways through which you can overcome the ill-fated bouts of love in the past, and move on too. When you close the door of pain and anger, resentment and dissent of the past, you shall open up to a love that waits to fall into your arms. Here are a few tips to help you overcome the fear of falling in love. Hence, please read on and be well-informed for the same
1. What are you scared of? There must be something else that you are afraid of, and not with the act of falling in love. Maybe in the past you gave your best and yet faced rejection and hurt. You’ve carried that in your mind, it’s deep rooted and you have trust issues, when someone is genuinely interested in what you have to offer. Love is about losing control in a positive way, not confining yourself
2. Identify where the fear stems from, and when that happens, you would know what makes the fear come across. As mentioned, a past experience or maybe watching someone else’s love life go down the drain can be killing. Remember, not all five fingers on the palm are the same, so don’t generalize the world and its ways, not humans especially. Maybe you didn’t like him or her in the first instance, which is okay. Time heals it all and love blossoms, so give yourself some space and time.
3. Stop feeling guilty and make an end to the blame game of what was, focus on what you can bring or offer. The person who hurt you exists no more, treat the person as garbage which has been thrown out and shunned for life. Find someone who loves you as you are, your interests, your way of life and more. They should be a positive source in your life, not one who would emotionally drain you.
4. Conquer the fear and learn from the past. This isn’t rocket science and it takes time to achieve, but is not impossible at the same time. You would only overwhelm yourself when you force yourself to forget the past overnight. The moment you face the fear of falling in love, you’d find internal strength for support which would make you strong
5. If you failed at love in the past, it’s okay, so realize that and move on. We all have failed miserably in love back then, but that didn’t end the world from rotating, the flowers from blooming and the breath of life from being enjoyed.
6. Patience is the key. Give yourself space and time, get to the person better as a friend first and then slowly blossom into the petals of love.
What you shouldn’t do:
a. Idolize the person as God
b. Be someone they want
c. Being unnatural
d. Low self esteem
We hope this information on how to bring in love and to overcome the fear of falling in love comes in handy. Love is a beautiful emotion, and as noted writer Paulo Coelho says “We fall in love many times before we find the right one. It only makes us stronger”…….. So be it!!
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